Book Review: Sex God

Catchy title isn’t it?! Sex God by Rob Bell wasn’t something I planned to read this year. It hasn’t been sitting on my shelf for a long time. A friend suggested it to me (and gave the me the copy they read) and I admit, I was intrigued. In Sex God, Rob Bell explores the connection between sexuality and spirituality. And while it talks about sex, this book is really about humanity being made in the image of God, respecting the image of God in ourselves, and honoring the image of God in others. Sex God is about being fully known and fully loved.

In the book, Rob Bell addresses marriage, infidelity and promiscuity, body image/shame, gender sterotypes, lust, submission, and love. Hard topics addressed with grace. There is no finger pointing or shaming, just gentle explanation leading to a higher theology of sex. With examples from throughout the Bible (including Adam and Eve and Jesus), Sex God connects the biblical story to our own story.

Here are a few of my underlined quotes:

“Because how you treat the creation reflects how you feel about the Creator.” (pg. 13)

“You can’t be connected with God until you’re at peace with who you are. If you’re still upset that God gave you this body or this life or this family or these circumstances, you will never be able to connect with God in a healthy, thriving, sustainable sort of way.” (pg. 34)

“Love is risky.” (pg. 84)

“Agape doesn’t love somebody because they’re worthy. Agape makes them worthy by the strength and power of its love.” (pg. 114)

“Because when you give something away, you no longer have it. When a couple shares with others what belongs to the two of them, they pay a price. The power and the mystery and, therefore, the strength of the bond comes from the exclusivity. When a couple lets people too far in, when we have experienced what is theirs in some mystical way, they don’t have it anymore. They gave it away.” (pg. 133)

“Which is what people crave in sex, isn’t it? To be known fully and still loved, still embraced, still accepted.” (pg. 162)

I would recommend Sex God to couples getting married, pastors who are counseling couples getting married, teens and young adults who are trying to understand how to express their sexuality, to parents of teens (to help frame those conversations about sex), and to married couples who are looking for a healthy sex life defined by connection. I would NOT recommend this book for those who have experienced sexual abuse and are still struggling with healing (please seek professional counseling), couples in the immediate aftermath of infidelity (please seek professional counseling), or for those just looking for some type of justification for random hook-ups, a validation of cheap sex, or yet another reason to say “you owe it to me” (if that is you, you won’t find any of that in this book).

I’m curious, if you have read Sex God, what did you think? And if you decide to read it, come back and tell me your thoughts!

Published by Kris

Jesus follower, racing wife, mom of seven, United Methodist pastor... Trying to live a life worthy of my callings.

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