Kris Mares

Just a woman trying to love Jesus and others a little bit more…

New Goals for Fall September 20, 2010

A lot is changing in my life right now.  We’ve moved to a whole new place, we have a new baby coming, I’m currently a stay-at-home mom again, and God is knitting our family together in ways  that I’m watching in awe and disbelief and wonder.  And, it’s beginning to look a lot like Fall out!  I LOVE fall – it’s probably my most favorite of all the seasons.  The temperatures are PERFECT, it brings back great memories of marching band, the windows in the house can be open, the leaves turn beautiful colors, bonfires are perfect… and it means that winter is coming (that means Christmas and snow!).  Fall always seems so crisp and fresh to me.

So, in honor of Fall and all the changes happening around me, I decided to make some new goals for myself.  Some goals are longer term, some shorter, but none the less, they are still goals that I have right now in my life.  And, I thought I’d share them with you.

#1 – Get the baby room set up and determine what, if anything, I will need.  We have most everything saved from Girlie and Gorilla.  This baby will be a “surprise,” and thankfully we have neutral, pink and blue waiting in the wings.  Because of the move, all the baby equipment is taken apart.  So, it needs to be put together, placed in its place and I get to start washing and organizing (one of my favorite things to do)!  I can’t wait to see all the little clothes hanging out on the line.  And I think, most of what we’ll need for the baby is consumables – diapers, wipes, washes, lotions, etc.  I am toying with the idea of cloth diapering some though…

#2 – Get into a better household management schedule so that I’m using what we have – money, time, other resources – the best I can.  I’ve tried FlyLady before and dabble on and off with her “system.  I just don’t stick with it well.  I grocery/meal plan fairly well, but I can always do better.  I just need a better routine of keeping up with household maintenance, cleaning and organizing so I don’t go on “binges” and drive everyone CRAZY!

#3 – Start thinking about Christmas, how we can better budget for it and what we can do for others (creative crafty things that are low-cost) to help share the reason that our family celebrates.  Work with Racer to plan ways for our family to keep Jesus Christ at the forefront of Christmas.

#4 – Bake from scratch more. It’s healthier and cheaper.  Frugal Girl has inspired me in this endeavor.  I just need to incorporate baking into the family routine more.

#5 – Keep a daily date with God.  This one should actually be first.  I REALLY want to figure out how to read the Bible/do a Bible study/spend time in Prayer daily.  And I don’t mean doing it in a dash.  I mean time that I can actually spend LISTENING to God.  Racer’s mom is really great at doing this.  The woman gets up at an hour of the morning that I don’t even recognize and spends time with God.  She’s done it forever.  She does it on vacation.  She does it when she’s visiting our crazy family and helping unpack/watch little kids/cook/etc.  So I can’t use my busy family as an excuse.  This dedication is one thing that I admire about her.  I have plenty of books, studies, devotions to use.  I have many that are half done.  I do great for a week or two and then…  I lose focus, interest, “time.”  Somethings gotta give.

#6 – Be more encouraging and less critical.  I tend to “encourage” by pointing out what people are doing or did wrong and then tell them that they can do better.  Not really encouraging.  I want to be the biggest cheerleader there is for my husband and children.  I want/need to be a better positive encourager.

So those are my goals for right now.  Some are big, some are not.  Some I’ll reach and complete.  Some will take a lifetime to reach.  Help me with them will you?  Pray that God gives me what I need to accomplish them.  Ask me how I’m doing with them.  Hold me accountable – as Christians, we’re supposed to do that for each other.

And tell me, what goals have you set for yourself?  I’d like to help you along in your journey too.


What Happened to Summer? September 8, 2010

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I’m sitting here, listening to the sound of the shower as kids prepare for school tomorrow.  The little ones are in bed.  Racer is around somewhere.  And our family has spent zero time together today.  Where did summer go?

Now that school has started, our “schedules” are getting into full swing.  Mornings are hectic getting everyone out the door.  The littles and I have full days of homeschool, a new Tuesday playgroup, Thursday storytime and errands.  After school time is busy with homework, chores and dinner/supper preparation.  Then we eat (thankfully, together as a family) and the two older do their clean-up chores while the littles get ready for bed.  Tonight, Professor started Cub Scouts (which I highly recommend for elementary age boys) that is now a part of our schedule.  Next week, Blue starts driver’s ed classes (how did this happen?) and before we know it, the week is gone and I’m not totally sure where it went.

What happened to summer when we didn’t have anything to do and we played outside together after dinner until 8:00?  What happened to playing board games with Blue and Professor after the little ones went to bed?  What happened to a clean house because everyone had time to pitch in and help?

Where did time go?

While I thrive on schedules – I’m a total type A personality – I really do love a quite night at home where everyone is together, getting along, well rested and enjoying our family.  As schedules change, tempers flare, chaos ensues and everyone gets tired (hence the tempers).  I suppose we just need to get adjusted to that new groove that is the fall calendar.  There is always so much to look forward to!

I won’t miss the heat of summer.  I won’t miss the uncertainty, packing, moving, saying goodbyes that this last summer brought.  I won’t miss high electric bills from running air conditioners.  I won’t miss the stink of sweaty kids after playing outside for only a short time.  I won’t miss the greasiness of sunscreen.

Instead, I welcome the chance to shop for back-to-school stuff (always did love it).  I welcome the cool, crisp air that is marching band season (yep – I’m a total band geek)!  I welcome jeans, comfy (and supportive) tennis shoes with long-sleeve shirts.  I welcome bonfires, the crunch of leaves and trips to the orchard and pumpkin patch.  And yes, I welcome the start of a new tv season (since it get dark earlier).

We’ll adjust to a new schedule, new things to do, new body rhythms.  I’ll make new goals for myself (I’ll tell you all about them when I get them nailed down).  Each of us will settle into a pace that makes sense.  Yes, Racer and I will schedule carefully and make sure that our family does indeed have time to connect together; that is VERY important to us.  Yes, we will make sure that the kids all have time to just play and be.  We try hard NOT to over schedule.  We will try hard to have a date night every now and then too (maybe we’ll even sneak out tonight).

One thing that I’ve learned is that I don’t have all the answers.  I’m always looking for new ideas that will help my family function more peacefully.  So please, share with me, what are you looking forward to this fall?  What are your plans and goals?  How do you handle the busy schedules that seem to arrive this time of year?  How do you maintain quality family time when everyone is off in different directions?

Join me in saying “goodbye summer” and “Hello Fall!”


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